Oh, that's right! I DO have good kids!

The other day at kindergarten pickup there was a mom next to me who gave the teacher a look like, “Well? How was he?” and the teacher good-naturedly shook her head and then told the mom that she had to put her son in timeout several times. Again. I have to admit that it never occurred to me that kids would be bad in kindergarten, bad enough to get in trouble and get put into a timeout. I told Dave that maybe the whole point of parenting (well, ok, not the whole point, but a big point) is to make it so that your kids, when they misbehave (which they will do, since they’re only kids) that they do it at your house and not out in public or in school for heaven’s sake. Then the timeout boy pretty much DITCHED his family in the gym pickup area, I guess because he knew he was going to get in trouble. He left the gym and was almost to the main crossroads when the grandma caught up with him. Again, crazy. I thanked Henry later for being a good kid. Henry said Timeout Kid gets in trouble for fighting (!) and cutting in line. And something convoluted about continually joining the wrong group during “choices” but since I don’t really understand how “choices” works, it didn’t make sense to me.

Comments (4)

  1. Beth October 1, 2008 at 11:22 am

    Guess what? Alessandro has been put in timeout several times since school began! I’ve been really surprised to find that he’s kind of a class clown, which is new for him. (I think it’s because a lot of the kids know each other already and he feels a little awkward.) Also, his pre-school was very Montessori-ish, which was great–I loved it–but the kids just kind of wandered around doing whatever they wanted to do and were not made to stop doing an art project or what have you if they didn’t want to. (Even if it was circle time, etc.) At any rate, his kindergarten teacher said she had to put him in timeout a few times and then he was fine. (I think one time it was because he got up and did a hula dance when the teacher left the room.)

  2. admin October 1, 2008 at 11:26 am

    Yeah, kindergarten. I think if Alessandro gets up and does a hula dance when the teacher leaves the room, rather than being punished, he should be put up on a pedestal. At least he’s not getting put in timeout for FIGHTING.

  3. Christina October 10, 2008 at 5:23 pm

    I took Nora to the pediatrician yesterday and she went over her list of things that they ask at the one-year-old visit. When she got to discipline- she said to me “how is the discipline going? Are time outs working?” I looked at her a little funny and said that, no, Nora had not yet needed a time out! Er, she’s only TWELVE months old!!! I told Erik about it, since he knows our pediatrician (she graduated from his program a couple years ago) and he just said “God bless her- but it’s time she had her own child”

  4. admin October 10, 2008 at 5:50 pm

    I know, I’ve read things that talk about appropriate time-out lengths, and they usually say the one-minute-per-age thing, saying, “For a one-year-old, one minute is enough. I am not a huge fan of the time out, unless it’s for me (and there have definitely been times I’ve had to go hide in the bathroom until I calmed down from whatever).

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